Fetish objects become sexualized when someone responds to them sexually. To clarify: fetish objects are not sexual on their own, like whips or dildos. Fetishes - also called paraphilias - are objects, materials, features, or articles of clothing, like used jockstraps, that people respond to sexually, and that enhance or facilitate sexual arousal.
Kinks are “unconventional” sexual interests, like bondage or paddling. But I’ll reiterate their distinction here. You may be asking: What is a fetish, and how is it different from a kink? I clarified these two terms in my list of 30 kinky terms every gay man should know. That distinctly musky, delicious aroma, which can only be found in the playrooms of gay circuit parties and in gyms across the country, lingered in the stitching. Inside the first package was a bottle of twelve-year Glenlivet, one of my favorite single malt whiskies. He knows what I like - sexually and otherwise - more than most people in my life, so his presents are always top-notch. We still go to the gym together, and today I consider him one of my closest friends. After we stopped playing sexually, we continued to go to the gym together and push each other to live healthier.
Our relationship had started more than a year earlier with intense monthly BDSM play sessions.
Two packages were in front of me on the coffee table. But first, he said, I should open my presents. Two years ago this month, I was sitting on the sofa in my Sir’s living room.
